I thought that if I let it be, the words would just flow, that writing would just 'happen'. But I was wrong. Writing takes time, dedicated time and effort for it to be truly worthwhile and worth reading.
It's been a busy period for BK and I, having moved houses a few months ago, both moved on to new jobs and trying to build a life together with some sort of plan. Sometimes it seems as though everybody around me has a plan that is far ahead of mine. Friends of mine that are newly married have already moved into flashy houses and apartments with a car each, holidays booked a year in advance, thriving careers and enough letters after their names to be envied. We on the other hand, are starting out in our careers, renting a small place way on the outskirts of London, just starting to think about further study and future plans. I don't know if there is a right way to live a life. I have always just tried to take things a day at a time and to do what feels right in every situation rather than what everyone around me seems to do simply because that's what's done. Which is probably why I studied English as a first degree before going on to study Economics and then Finance. Which is probably why BK studied Classics and Sanskrit before going on to study Law. Our lives have been dictated by what we've known we were good at, would love keep doing and would equip us with the best tools to serve society.
One of my favourite quotes is 'Make your passion your profession'. In all my people watching over the years I have seen my friends crumble in trying to make careers for themselves with money as the object. The money comes, no doubt about it, but the joy of work fizzles out and after some time, the feeling of being a meaningless cog in a wheel takes over until it becomes unbearable. Eventually, and it's happened four times now, I'll get a phonecall out of the blue, asking for career advice or being told that so and so is now enrolling to be an art teacher and has left a top firm to take up gardening or something polar opposite to what they insisted they had to do.
I know I could be earning twice as much as I am right now if I worked in consulting or a big firm, but I am terrified of losing the small joys that accompany my little job. There is something about working for people that is such a joyful experience. Everyday is different. Everyday I get to do things that others just don't understand. I attend poetry groups, art classes, I run IT classes, I provide informal therapy and organise group activities. I try to help those demotivated by life to try and reignite the spark of existence that once burned freely and willingly within them. And I do it well.
And while I'm tempted at times by the laptops and fancy phones, the client lunches and flights that accompanied my previous corporate life, I have to do a double take and recognise that what I did then - reconcile spreadsheets and figures, balance budgets and create databases, has nothing on the kinds of things I am learning now.
So maybe it will take a few years for us both to catch up on the house and the cars and the high life that we seem so far behind from, but at least we love what we do and who we are...and eachother.
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3 comments:
Divya,
Thanks for the post. I enjoyed it.
I am also in a small way involved with the school/ashram at Babapur vi my dear brother /friend Anil Trivedi.
I also agree with you about writing .It is difficult and i have just embarked on that writing journey. I will continue to read your post for inspiration.
Thanks and have a great day!
Dilip Patel
Hey Div,
It's Tan from Melbourne. Certainly has been a while since we last had contact, altho I still keep tabs on your journeys thru your blog. I'm glad you and your husband r happy doing what you're doing. Send me an email at silkky82@gmail.com if u ever get a chance. All the best, Tan
Div,
Wonderful piece of literature; you have captured my sentiments precisely.
I recall having similar thoughts of lagging behind the rest of the world
during the transition from industry to academia. I recall contempt for
academic institutions feeling that I've been shunned from entering higher
education due to past performance and lack of educational capital. Add
to that my vision was robbed and the loneliness of not having a large
support network, and the future seemed very bleak.
Even finding a job posed a difficulty, becuase I was an autodidact when
it came to most things I enjoy (as you know). Academia didn't hone
any of these skills, but lacking formal education posed a challenge
in finding a job. Also discriminatory hiring practices prevailed so
if I gave the slightest hint of having a disability such as vision
impairment, I had a strong feeling that all interest in me would be lost.
I ended up finding jobs in all the wrong companies that paid a lot, let
me do interesting work, but the work was morally questionable. I still
had an empty feeling that I was missing out on academia, but at the same
time I was able to support myself, and even Kai who was still finishing
up uni.
But I met wonderful people in industry, and it's the people I remember,
not the jobs. The sense of working with people and accomplishing something
is where my passion lies (more on this in a bit). I struggled juggling
work and studies at a local community college to meet the requirements
to enter a university. I had the feeling of being sub-par since I wasn't
able to immediately enter university as I felt past education performance
was correlated with future performance. I'm not sure why, but this wasn't
the case. Something changed in me. I was bored of the high life of working
a high paying job, and I wanted the challenges academia had to offer.
I was also afraid that I would be unable to cope with working and a full-time
workload at school because i'd be worn out having to use the glint of vision
I had left. Vision impairement has been a blessing in disguise. Although
I had to work thrice as hard compared to the average student I was able
to hone other skills and become more dedicated and focused student. I think
this actually helped me grasped the concept of academia which is pereceived
differently by everyone. But the concept I envisioned is of achieving
cool and ambitious ideas by collaborating with like-minded people.
This is the exact reason why I'm entering the doctorate program. It's
not for prestige or 6 digit salaries or any of that junk. It's to be
an expert in a field I enjoy, but to also train the next generation
of students, researchers, working together to produce even cooler ideas.
Of course, there's always an ambition in the end. Mine will be to teach.
I remember hearing an apophthegm that I have lived by so far:
"Education is not a race."
In the same vein, this aphophegm is a template for anything in life, especially
a career. If we treat everything in life as a race, which I admit to doing
in the past, we forget what truly matters: friends, family, and building
lifelong relations. I find it highly offensive that our status in life
is probed by our achievements, career/educational standing, rather than
who we really are as people.
Anyways, I feel like I'm mindlessly ranting, these are things I never really
mention about my life. But I feel they're the most important aspects of my
life aswell.
In other news, I feel privileged to have such an awesome family. I never understood the importance as a child, but I finally realize the best and most memorable times are with friends and family.
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